WHAT MOTIVATES YOU?
As I began
to write these next few blogs, I was reflecting on what my program is all about. The
purpose of my program, 'Lt. Pacello’s Life Training Program', is to bring a
total mind, body, and soul healing modality to those who suffer from PTSD, depression, trauma, or stress. In order to fully
recover from this disorder, it has to be on all levels: mental, physical,
emotional, and spiritual. Why? The reason is because we exist on 4 different
planes of existence. There’s the mental
plane, the emotional plane, the physical plane, and the spiritual plane. Three of these are unseen: the mental, the
emotional, and the spiritual. The
balance and harmony in our lives is based on all 4 of these areas being
healthy, functioning properly, and interconnected to all the others. If the unseen world, the inner world, is out
of balance, this will be reflected in the physical world. It’s not the other way around. However, when we identify ourselves only as a
body, we are at the mercy and effect of the physical world, and as a
consequence, we only treat the body for the symptoms we are experiencing and
not dealing with the cause. We limit
ourselves to treating the effects of PTSD, depression, and trauma.
If we just treat the symptoms and the effects
of PTSD, depression, and trauma, this is very limiting and short-sighted in dealing with the
overall problem. You’re going to get limited
results; you’re going to get short term solutions and coping strategies to deal
with this disorder for the rest of your life.
Thus, you might be able to alleviate some of the depression, some of the
angst, or anxiety you might feel through some of the skills you develop through
counseling, or by taking pharmaceuticals to make you feel better. However, this does nothing to heal the cause
of your pain. So, the purpose of this
program, the program which I offer to each and every one of you who suffers
from PTSD, depression, or trauma, is to give you a way, a path, for you to completely heal
this within yourselves. In this program,
one of the many things you learn is that mind is the cause; the outside world
is the effect. You are subject to what
you hold in mind. That is crucial for
you to understand and what is going to make all the difference in allowing the
transformation in your life to occur. If
you are subject to what you hold in your mind, than what you hold is going to
influence every aspect of your life. Our
goal is to go to the cause of the pain, shine a light on it, uproot all the
belief systems, the traumas, the things that have kept you from being the best
version of yourself, and do this in a holistic, healthy, loving way, and
bringing in the non-linear context of universal spiritual principles like love,
compassion, and forgiveness in looking at the traumas you've experienced; and
when you are truly able to do this, you will be able to heal this within
yourself completely on all levels. If you choose to work with me, we
are going to remove all the clouds that are covering up the sun that is you
that is shining brightly underneath. All
of you are already whole. You do not
need to fix anything. We just have to
remove all those things, those traumas, and pains you've experienced in your
life that are preventing you from feeling and being that wholeness. And that’s what this program is really all
about. It is a complete and total
self-healing of your soul distress.
Part of the
process to connecting to what motivates you, one of the things you must
understand, really grasp, is you are the source of your own happiness. We get so bogged down by the outside world
not giving us what we want, not fulfilling our needs, not fulfilling our
desires, and it’s because we've placed the source of our happiness outside of
us. We are often motivated by what we
hope to get from someone or something to fill us. A relationship, for example, can be a source
of our happiness. Yet, by placing the
source of our happiness in the other person we are placing ourselves in a very
vulnerable position because we are seeking appreciation, acceptance, love, and
value from something outside of us, and when the person fails to do so or the
relationship doesn't live up to your expectations, you get sad and depressed,
or you feel cheated, or feel unworthy of love and belonging, or even worse,
unlovable.
It’s difficult for us to let
go of this unconscious program running through our lives. It's something we were programmed with since
birth. Love is outside of me, not inside
of me. My value and worth is determined
by others’ love and acceptance of me, not by me accepting and loving
myself. Nothing outside of you can give
you happiness. You, and only you, are
responsible for your own happiness.
We
project onto the world, we project all these things and give it their meaning
and value, and when they don’t come through for us, we get angry, we get depressed;
we get filled with hopelessness and despair.
This vulnerability to being at the effect of the outside world is a
consequence of the way we were taught.
We were taught to believe that if we do these things, we will have these
things, and then we will be happy. For
example, if I do this job, then I will be able to have these possessions, and then
I will be happy. As a consequence, we've
placed our happiness somewhere out into the future, rather than being happy
right now, starting from a place of beingness.
By being happy, starting from a place of being content and satisfied,
then we are coming from the place we already want to be, and thus, when we go
out and do the things that we want to do, we’re doing it because we truly want
to do it, and inevitably, because we are coming from a place of wholeness, we’ll
get the things that we truly want.
When we
recognize we've placed the source of our happiness as outside of ourselves, we begin
to understand how this creates a negative energy field because it is basically
a lie. I want you to really get this
right now, you are the source. You, and I, have mistakenly given our power
over to the world, the power to live life to its fullest and to enjoy it, and
now it’s time to take back that power.
As a former suffer of PTSD, depression, addiction, and trauma, I can tell you with 100%
confidence that your minds have to be re-trained. You must learn how to re-train your mind to
separate yourself from the thoughts that imprison you, and the thoughts that
invigorate and inspire you. This
includes all the pain, the flashbacks, the triggers, the fears, the anxiety,
the anger, the incessant painful memories that keep recurring. For me, in my recovery, it was to really
grasp and understand the error I had made in placing my happiness outside of
me. Once I understood that the source of
my happiness was within me, that I was the source, I was the true source of my
motivation, I had to look at things in a completely different way.
Now, in recognizing what motivates you, we begin to re-align to who you truly are. There are questions which I ask of you when I work with you, which are designed to get you to look very deep within yourselves and find out what is the driving force behind your life? When we understand what the driving force behind your life is, we understand what motivates you. And then we really get in touch with who you are; we really get in touch with you. And then the program moves forward from there, really tailored to you. When we re-discover what motivates you, we start letting go of the belief systems that keep you from being this person, who you truly are. And when we understand what motivates you, we begin to heal your pain; we heal your past pain because we connect with the trauma to understand how it occurred and what it means, and how to use that for your own motivation. That’s why we do it. And that’s why it’s so important to understand what motivates you. To change the things in the outer world we must first work on our inner world.
Part 2 tomorrow.
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Charlie Pacello is a PTSD, Depression, and Healing Trauma Recovery Expert and Life Coach, a former US Air Force Lieutenant, and creator of the program, 'Lt. Pacello's Life Training Program.' He can be reached by visiting his website at www.charliepacello.com
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