Promises to Make to Yourself for 2015

2015 has just begun, and we all want to start it off on the right foot.  We set new resolutions, plans get underway to make changes in our lives, and we often discover after a month or two has passed, we have fallen behind on what it is we set out to do for the upcoming year.  So, how can you keep focused on the year ahead?  Drawing up a list of promises to make to yourself is one of them.  I've provided a list of 12 promises which I believe will help you to set the stage for 2015 as one of your best years yet.  It's a list which has helped me immensely.  I encourage each of you who read this blog to print it out and post it where you can look at it daily.  Whenever I'm being challenged by life as to what I ought to do, I take a look at this list, and really let it sink in.  It has a way of grounding me back into myself, and helps to keep me focused on the things I want to experience in my life.  

To be honest with you, I struggle with knowing what to do sometimes.  I get so lost.  This list was given to me by Dr. Sarah Larsen, one of my mentors, and a dearest friend.  It has helped me stay focused on ways to focus my energy until I was beyond this.  These are simple but powerful statements you can gift to yourself everyday which can truly make 2015 a year unlike any other.

Repeat after me: “I promise…”

1. “I will not hold the past against myself.” – Your problems, your weaknesses, setbacks, regrets and mistakes teach you if you’re willing to learn, or they will punish you if you’re not.   So let them teach you, every day.  Take everything as a lesson learned.  If you regret some of the decisions you have made in the past, stop being so hard on yourself.  At that time, you did your best with the knowledge you had.  At that time, you did your best with the experience you had.  Your decisions were made with a younger mind.  If you were to make these decisions with the wisdom you have today, you would choose differently.  So give yourself a break.  Time and experience has a wonderful way of helping us grow and learn to make better choices today, for ourselves and those we care for.
2. “I will own my life and never deny responsibility for it.” – Through the grapevine, you may have learned that you should blame your parents, your teachers, your mentors, the education system, the government, etc., but never to blame yourself.  Right?  It’s never, ever your fault… WRONG!  It’s always your fault, because if you want to change, if you want to let go and move on with your life, you’re the only person who can make it happen.  It’s YOUR move to make.  It’s YOUR responsibility.  Own it!
3. “I will speak kindly and consciously to myself.” – Wait, what did you just say to yourself?  Were they the inspiring, encouraging words you would speak to a friend?  Or were they the belittling remarks you might shout to an enemy if you had no heart.  Or the negative assessments about life you would utter if you had no faith?  All day long we speak silently to ourselves, and a part of us believes every word.  So stay mindful, and ask yourself, “If I had a friend who always spoke to me in the same way that I am speaking to myself right now, how long would I allow that person to be my friend?”  (Read Loving What Is.)
4. “I will listen to what my heart and soul is telling me.” – When something feels right, that means it is right for you (at least it is worth looking into).  And if you genuinely feel deep down that something is wrong, it probably is.  Pay attention to your authentic feelings, and follow where they lead.  When you’re following your inner voice, doors tend to eventually open for you, even if they mostly slam at first.
5. “I will live a life that feels right to me, not one that looks right to others.” – Give yourself permission to follow the path that makes YOU happy.  And realize that some people in your life will refuse to walk beside you as you embark on this journey; they simply won’t approve no matter what you say, and that’s OK.  Sometimes when you commit yourself to creating your own happiness, it clashes with the perceptions of others.  Sometimes when you gain something great, you have to let go of something else.  And sometimes this ‘something else’ is a relationship that only wants you to do what they want you to do.
6. “I will let go of relationships that are obviously not meant to be.” – Most people come into your life temporarily simply to teach you something.  They come and they go and they make a difference.  And it’s OK that they’re not in your life anymore.  Not all relationships last, but the lessons these relationships bring to you do.  If you learn to open your heart and mind, anyone, including the folks who eventually drive you mad, can teach you something worthwhile.  Sometimes it will feel weird when you realize you spent so much time with someone you are no longer connected to, but that’s exactly how it’s supposed to be.  You are exactly where you’re supposed to be.  We all are.  (Angel and I discuss this in detail in the “Relationships” chapter of 1,000 Little Things Happy, Successful People Do Differently.)
7. “I will not let any situation permanently steal my smile.” – Even when times are tough, take a moment to pause and remember who YOU are.  Take a moment to reflect on the things that have real and lasting meaning in your life.  And then smile about how far you've come.  Honestly, nothing in this world is more beautiful and powerful than a smile that has struggled through the tears.  Any fool can be happy when times are easy.  It takes a strong soul with real heart to develop smiles out of situations that make us weep.  No matter how long it takes, it will get better.  Keep going.  Tough situations build strong people in the end.
8. “I will celebrate and appreciate the life I have.” – Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.  Don’t be one of them.  Take a breath of fresh air.  The past is behind you.  Focus on what you can do today, not on what you could've or should've done yesterday.  Remember, for everything you've lost, you've gained something else.  Appreciate what you have and who you are today.  Life does not have to be perfect to be wonderful.  Count your blessings, not your troubles.  It costs nothing to be positive, and it changes things for the better.  Your thoughts are yours to control, so make good use of them to give your actions and your life a powerful advantage.
9. “I will realize and use my power to make a difference.” – The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any.  Don’t do this.  The world needs you.  In a world filled with doubt, you must dare to dream.  In a world filled with anger, you must dare to forgive.  In a world filled with hate, you must dare to love.  In a world filled with distrust, you must dare to believe.  And once you do, I promise, you will find that power you once thought you lacked.
10. “I will dedicate myself to personal excellence.” – Anything worth doing, is worth doing right.  And excellence is never an accident.  It’s the result of high intention, focused effort, intelligent direction, skillful execution, and the vision to see obstacles as opportunities.  It’s also important to note that excellence cannot be judged by looking at where you are at any given point in time, but by measuring the distance you have traveled from the point where you started.  It’s about being diligent and making progress – either a step forward or a lesson learned – day in and day out.  (Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.)
11. “I will keep stretching myself beyond my previous level of comfort.” – Just because you’re struggling doesn't mean you’re failing.  Every great success requires some type of worthy struggle to get there.  Know this!  When you’re struggling, that’s when you’re growing stronger and smarter.  The more time you spend there, the faster you learn.  It’s better to spend an extremely high quality ten minutes growing, than it is to spend a mediocre hour running in place.  Every day, you want to practice at the point where you are on the edge of your ability, stretching yourself over and over again, making mistakes, stumbling, learning from those mistakes and stretching yourself even farther.
12. “I will embrace the changes I know I need to make.” – Life is a balancing act of holding on and letting go – of staying put and moving on.  We strive to make the right choices, but how do we know when it is truly time to move forward with our lives?  The signs aren't always easy to accept, but they are there and you know it.  Relationships, jobs, and even the cities we live in have expiration dates.  Sometimes we hold on to what’s not working out of fear that we won’t be able to adapt to necessary changes.  And thus, the outcome is always the same: more pain, immense frustration, and lasting regret.  Be smarter than that.  Embrace the changes you know you need to make.

Happy New Year everyone!

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Charlie Pacello is a PTSD, Depression, and Healing Trauma Recovery Expert and Life Coach, a former US Air Force Lieutenant, and creator of the program, 'Lt. Pacello's Life Training Program.'  He can be reached by visiting his website at www.charliepacello.com

World Peace and the Unified Field

During this time of year, when we are spending it with our families, setting aside for a moment all the turmoils, tragedies, and numerous conflicts occurring in the world today, we celebrate a time when good will towards men is the theme.  In all of our hearts, no matter where we live in the world, we all cherish joy, love, and peace.  It is our natural state, and when we set aside our judgments, disagreements, and feelings of separation from our human family, we come in contact, even if it's just for an instant, of the possibility of what life could be like.  It's a time where we are given a chance to be re-born to our truer selves, to the goodness within, and plant the seeds for a better day when we will no longer see each other as separate.  I'm reminded right now of the Christmas Miracle of 1914, when the German and British soldiers fighting in World War I put down their arms for one day, stepped out of the trenches, and celebrated Christmas together.  They drank tea, sang Christmas songs, and played games with each other despite the fact there was a war going on between them.  In the midst of trench warfare, these soldiers somehow found it within their hearts to take a step back, recognize each other's common humanity, and let peace, joy, and goodwill towards all men reign for one day.  If those men could do it then, we can do it today, no matter where our brother lives, or what his religious or ethnic background is.  It's going to take all of us to look deep within our hearts as to what kind of world we want to live in.  This time of year, we are given the opportunity to touch what is most true in us.    

One of the videos I have my clients watch when I’m working with them is a video from the Maharishi University of Management, from a lecture given by David Lynch and John Hagelin.  This talk is on world peace and the unified field.  David Lynch as you may know is a well-known filmmaker, television director, visual artist, musician, and an occasional actor.  Some of his best known films are Dune (1984), Mulholland Drive (2001), and Inland Empire (2006).  John Hagelin is a former researcher at the European Organization for Nuclear Research (CERN) and the Stanford Linear Accelerator (SLAC).  He is now Professor of Physics and Director of the Institute of Science, Technology, and Public Policy at Maharishi University of Management.  He has conducted research into the unified field theory and the Maharishi Effect. 

In this particular video, they are talking about world peace.  This is something everybody wants, everybody wants world peace, but unfortunately nobody believes that there can be world peace.  It’s this nice idea that’s just hanging out there.  It’s really meaningless.  We think it’s got to be this way, the world has got to be the way it is.  We think we've got to have war, we think we've got to have violence, we've got to have intense struggle and intense conflict in order for life as we know it to exist.  I want to introduce you to a new science; it’s called the Vedic science, or the science of consciousness.  This technology of the science of consciousness can easily bring this world we so want about, this reality of world peace.  The science of peace is not just the absence of war; it’s the absence of all negativity.

Peace is real.  And it comes from this unified field.  It can be enlivened in an individual and it can be enlivened in a group to bring peace.  This information comes to us in the video from David Lynch.  Dr. John Hagelin, who is a quantum physicist, speaks next, and he goes into great detail about the science behind all this theory.  He begins by saying there are 300,000 manuscripts and books on peace, and on average, about 3 people have read them, which includes the author and the publisher.  We all want to create peace.  Now, the field of consciousness is the field of unity, the field of bliss, the field of peace, on a tangible, palpable, physical level, millions of times more powerful than the nuclear force, if we could just access it, access this consciousness.

What we need in order to access this consciousness is we need more peacemakers who can develop their nervous systems to a point where they become the lighthouses of peace, where they radiate peace.  When an individual mind contacts Being at the Source of Thought, when individual awareness expands to become universal, it creates a ripple in the universal field, just like a ripple in the electromagnetic field.  And this ripple propagates in all directions at the speed of light.  Just imagine, for instance, what happens with a broadcast antenna.  Just like a broadcast antenna, when you shake the electrons up and down in the antenna, it creates a local disturbance in the electromagnetic field, and that disturbance propagates out in all directions at the speed of light.  If we have a transistor radio on the other side with an antenna, this disturbance will cause the electrons in the antenna of the transistor radio to shake up and down and this shaking up and down of the electrons in the antenna is decoded by our transistor radio as music.  So this information gets communicated through ripples propagating through the electromagnetic field.  We are all very familiar with this reality.  Whenever you turn on your radio in your car, this is what is happening, these ripples that are being propagated through the air and being decoded by the antenna of your radio so that you can hear music in your car.

In the same way, we stimulate the more fundamental field of unity, the more fundamental field of consciousness; it creates a ripple that can be felt.  Research shows that to have a really powerful effect you need to have these ripplers rippling in close proximity to each other.  That creates not just a ripple, but a tidal wave of unity, a tidal wave of peace, a tidal wave of coherence.  This coherence, this unity, this peace get communicated through this field of consciousness.  That’s why it is important to understand consciousness is a field that we all share, that underlies and pervades us all!

Amazingly, because the strength of numbers is such that it doesn't take that many people to influence large areas, say for instance, the whole Pacific Coast.  The reason behind this is because, let’s say for instance, you have 2 loud speakers in a boom box, they are close together, and they are playing minoral sounds.  What that means is they are playing in sync.  The volume of sound generated by two loud speakers is 4 times the sound of 1 loud speaker.  3 loud speakers produce 9 times the sound of one loud speaker if the speakers are close together.  That’s because these waves all coherently produce a wave that is 3 times as high.  A wave that is 3 times as high has 9 times the power.  The power grows as the square of the height of the wave. 

That is why the research shows the radiated influence of peace in the environment grows roughly as the square of the number of the people doing it together.  The end squared effect amplifies the power to be enough to produce a demonstrable, repeatable, publishable effect on crime rates, even terrorism, even stopping warfare in war torn areas like the Middle East.  I have a prime example.  Look how we miraculously averted war with Syria.  War appeared to be inevitable, and yet, suddenly, miraculously, a way out of the conflict appeared, and we avoided military interaction.  Enough people around the country and the world were radiating peace, which in turn provided for the right conditions to produce an alternative way out of the crisis and what seemed like a point of no return. 

This is a technology.  It is a science and a technology for peace.  Negativity goes away, like darkness goes away when the sun comes up.  The sun doesn't even have to do anything to drive the darkness away.  The sun doesn't even care about the darkness, the sun just comes up, and the darkness goes away.  When this happens, when the unified field gets enlivened, negativity goes, it just goes.  

If we look at it in that way, connect the dots, and use this field towards bring about peace, we will discover that peace is much more powerful than we realized.  At this time of year, when our hearts our filled with all that is good about ourselves, each other, and the world, let us take the time to contemplate extending this sense of peace we feel, not just to this time of year; but to the possibility of peace being the norm of every day of the year, not the exception.  If we all do our part, and treat each other with a little more kindness, a little more compassion, a little more love, each moment we do, we are bring more peace into this world.  When enough of us are doing this, being lighthouses of peace, the negativity in our world will gradually dissipate, and our children, and our children's children will be born into a much different world than we were.  We must choose what kind of world we want to gift them with.  It's up to us.    

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Charlie Pacello is a PTSD, Depression, and Healing Trauma Recovery Expert and Life Coach, a former US Air Force Lieutenant, and creator of the program, 'Lt. Pacello's Life Training Program.'  He can be reached by visiting his website at www.charliepacello.com

The Incredible Story of Jill Bolte Taylor

I want to share with you now one of my favorite videos I have in my program that I share with my clients.  I am going to share with you the story of Jill Bolte Taylor in her own words.  A neuroanatomist by profession, she had a rare opportunity few brain scientists ever could have.  One morning she realized she was having a stroke.  And as it happened, she felt her brain functions slip away one by one –her speech, her movement, her understanding – and while this was happening, she studied and remembered every moment.  This video is a powerful story about how our brains define us and connect us to the world and to one another.

Jill grew up studying the brain because she had a brother with a brain disorder, schizophrenia.  As a sister and as a scientist she wanted to understand why she could connect her dreams to her reality and make them come true.  At the same time, she wanted to know what it was about her brother’s brain and his schizophrenia that he could not connect his dreams with a common and shared reality so they instead became a delusion. 

She dedicated her life’s work to research and study severe mental illnesses.  She worked at the Harvard Department of Psychiatry, and her function there was to look at the biological differences between someone who has what we would consider “normal” control as compared to the brains of individuals diagnosed with schizophrenia, schizo-affective, or bipolar disorder.  Essentially, they were mapping the micro-circuitry of the brain. 

Jill had a very full life.  She was working on something she was passionate about, she was spending her weekends supporting a non-profit organization she was deeply committed to, and so her life was fulfilled.  Yet, on the morning of December 10, 1996, she woke up to discover she had a brain disorder of her own. 

A blood vessel exploded on the left side of her brain.  She had a major hemorrhage.  In the course of 4 hours, she watched her brain completely deteriorate in its ability to process all information.  She could not walk, talk, read, write, or recall any of her life.  Essentially she became an infant in a woman’s body. 

If you have ever looked at a human brain, most of us have, (you can find on the internet pictures of what the human brain looks like), you will notice that there are two cerebral cortices that are actually completely separate from one another.  For those of you who understand computers, the right hemisphere functions like a parallel processor while our left hemisphere functions like a serial processor.  The two hemispheres do communicate with one another through the corpus callosum.  Other than that, the two hemispheres are completely separate. 

Our hemispheres process information differently.  They each think about different things and care about different things.  Our right hemisphere is all about the present moment, this present moment.  Right here.  Right now.  It thinks in pictures and it learns kinesthetically through the movement of our bodies.  Information in the form of energy streams in simultaneously through all of our sensory systems and then it explodes into this enormous collage of what this present moment looks like, what this present moment smells like, tastes like, what it feels like, and what it sounds like.  We are all energy beings connected to the energy all around us through the consciousness of our right hemispheres.  We are connected to one another through the consciousness of our right hemispheres as one human family, right here, right now.  Those of you who are reading this blog, we are brothers and sisters on this planet here to make this world a better place.  In this moment, we are perfect, we are whole, we are beautiful, and we are magnificent. 

Our left hemisphere is very different.  It thinks linearly and methodically.  Our left hemisphere is all about the past, and all about the future.  It’s designed to take this enormous collage called the present moment, and it starts to pick out details, lots of details, it then categorizes and organizes all that information, and then associates it with everything in the past we've ever learned, and projects into the future all of our possibilities.  Our left hemisphere thinks in language.  It’s our on-going brain chatter that connects our internal world with our external world.  It’s that little voice that reminds you of things to do, but more importantly, it tells you who you are.  It tells me, ‘I am’.  As soon as my left hemisphere says ‘I am’, it separates me, you, us, from the energy flow around us and keeps me separate from you; and you from me.  This is the portion of the brain Jill lost on the morning of her stroke.

She woke up to a pounding pain over her left eye.  It was this caustic pain, like when you eat too much ice cream, and it would grip her then release her, and then it would grip her again, and release her.  She noticed it, but she didn't think too much of it at the time.  She ended up jumping on to her cardio-glider; it’s this full body exercise machine.  As Jill was working out on this, she noticed that her hands looked like primitive claws grasping onto the bar.  It was as though her consciousness had shifted away from her normal perception of reality where she was a person on the machine having this experience, to some esoteric space where she was witnessing herself having this experience.  Jill walked across the living room floor and she noticed everything in her body had slowed way down.  Every step was rigid and very deliberate; there was no fluidity to her movement.  There was a constriction in her area of perception so she was only focused on her internal systems.

Jill attempted to get into the shower and she ended up losing her balance and was propped up against the wall.  As she looked down at her arm, she realized she could no longer define the boundaries of her body, where she began and where she ended, because the molecules and atoms in her arms blended with the molecules and atoms of the wall.  All Jill could detect was this energy.  Energy was all around her.  She tried to figure out what was going on.  The chatter in her left hemisphere suddenly went silent.  She was captivated by the energy around her, and because she could no longer identify with the boundaries of her body, she felt this enormous and expansive feeling.  She felt at one with all the energy around her, and she felt it was beautiful.

Jill’s left brain comes back on and tells her she’s got a problem.  But then she drifted back into this beautiful energy and expansive consciousness.  It was just too beautiful there.  Now, imagine if you can what it would be like to be totally disconnected to the brain chatter that connects you to the external world.  This is what it felt like: all stress and concerns, traumas, relationships, problems, issues connected to the external world were gone.  This is the freedom she felt.  She felt lighter in her body and felt this incredible sense of peace.  Just imagine what it would be like to let go of a lifetime of emotional baggage!  This is what Jill felt like – it was euphoria!

Her left brain comes back on and says she needs to get help.  Jill starts walking around the apartment attempting to get ready for work.  And she keeps asking herself, ‘Can I drive? Can I drive? Can I drive?’, and just then, her right arm went totally paralyzed by her side.  Suddenly she realized she was having a stroke.  So the next thing her brain says to do is ‘This is so cool!  How many brain scientists have the opportunity to study their own brains from the inside out?!’

Jill then tries to call work to get some help.  She remembers she has a business card in her office with her numbers on it.  She goes into her office and pulls out a stack of business cards, and even though she knows she could see clearly in her mind’s eye what her business card looked like, she couldn't tell if what she was looking at was her card or not because all she could see were pixels.  All the pixels of the pictures, words, background and numbers were blended together.  Then Jill would wait for what she described as a wave of clarity, and in that moment she could reattach to her normal reality and then she could tell which card was hers or not.  It took Jill 45 minutes to get down one inch inside the stack of cards to find hers. 

In the meantime, her hemorrhage is getting bigger.  Jill didn't understand numbers, or the telephone, but that was the only plan she had.  She put the phone pad and her card next to each other and she starts matching the shapes of the squiggles of the phone card to the squiggles on the phone pad.  However, she would drift back out into la-la land, and then she would come back and not remember which numbers she had dialed.  This went on for a while.  Eventually the whole number gets dialed, and her colleague gets on the phone and all she hears is this ‘woof woof woof’ on the other end, similar to the sound the teacher would make in the Charlie Brown cartoons.  And she thought to herself, ‘he sounds like a golden retriever.’  What Jill didn't know was that she couldn't speak or understand language until she tried.  Her colleague fortunately figured out she needed help and called the paramedics. 

On her way to the hospital in the ambulance, Jill curled up into a little fetal ball – like a balloon that had just a little bit of air – and she felt her energy lift and felt her spirit surrender.  In that moment, Jill knew she was no longer the choreographer of her life, and either the doctors would rescue her body and give her a second chance at life, or this was her moment of transition.

When she woke up later that afternoon, Jill was shocked to discover she was still alive.  When she felt her spirit surrender, Jill had said goodbye to her life.  Her mind was suspended between two very opposite planes of reality.  With stimulation coming in through her sensory systems, it felt like pure pain, light burned her brain, and sounds were so loud and chaotic she couldn't pick out a voice from the background noise.  Jill wanted to escape.  At the same time, because she couldn't identify her body in space, she felt enormous, expansive.  Her spirit soared free in a silent euphoria.  She found nirvana. 

Jill remembered thinking there was no way she could squeeze this enormousness of herself back into her tiny little body.  But then she realized, ‘I’m still alive, I’m still alive!  And I have found nirvana!  And if I am still alive then everyone who is alive can find nirvana.’  She pictured a world of beautiful, loving, peaceful, compassionate people who knew they could come to this plane at any time.  They could purposely choose to step to the right of their left hemispheres and find this peace.  Then she thought to herself, ‘what a tremendous gift this experience could be, what a stroke of insight this could be to how we live our lives.’  And it was this insight that motivated Jill to recover.

2 ½ weeks later, the surgeons removed a blood clot the size of a golf ball pushing up against her language centers.  It took Jill over 8 years to completely recover.

What were Jill’s insights from her experience?  Jill discovered as a consequence of her stroke that we are the life force power of the universe with manual dexterity and two cognitive minds.  And we get to choose moment by moment who and how we want to be in this world.  We can step into the consciousness of the right hemisphere where we are, you are, I am, the life force power of the universe.  The life force power of 50 trillion beautiful molecular geniuses that make up our form, at one with all that is.  Or, we can choose to step into the consciousness of our left hemisphere – a single individual, a solid, separate from the flow, I separate from you, and you separate from me.  These are the worlds inside of us.   Now which would you choose?  Which do you choose? And when?

Jill Bolte Taylor says at the very end she believes the more time we spend choosing to run the deep inner peace circuitry of our right hemispheres, the more peace we will project into the world, and the more peaceful our planet will be. 

This, I believe, is definitely an idea worth spreading.

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Charlie Pacello is a PTSD, Depression, and Healing Trauma Recovery Expert and Life Coach, a former US Air Force Lieutenant, and creator of the program, 'Lt. Pacello's Life Training Program.'  He can be reached by visiting his website at www.charliepacello.com

Letting Go of the Things that no Longer Serve You

We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress, and suffering.  Instead of letting them go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress-free and happy, we cling on to the memories and events of our past.  Well, you can change that, starting right now, today.  You are going to learn how to identify those things that no longer serve you and give them up, which will begin the process for you to embrace the change. 

Ready?  Here you go.  These are the tools for you to implement in your own life, right now, which will accelerate the process of letting go of your past. 

  1 . Give up your need to always be right.  There’s so many of us who just can’t stand the idea of being wrong, wanting to always be right, even at the expense of ending relationships that are causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others.  It’s just not worth it.  Whenever you feel the urgent need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question:  “Would I rather be right?  Or would I rather be kind?”  This comes from Wayne Dyer.  Now what difference will that make?  Or is your ego really that big? 

   2.   Give up you need for control.  Be willing to give up your need to control everything that happens around you whether they are situations, events, people, and it doesn't matter who they may be – workers, co-workers, strangers, your loved ones – just allow them to be.  Allow everyone and everything to be just exactly as it is and just watch how much better you are going to feel.  “By letting it go, it all gets done.  The world is won by those who let it go.  When you try and try, the world is beyond winning.”  –Lao Tzu 

   3.  Give up on blame.  Give up your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel.  Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life. 

   4.  Give up on your self-defeating talk.  Now this is a big one.  How many people are hurting themselves right now because of their negative, polluted, and repetitive self-defeating mindset?  Here’s a rule of thumb.  Don’t believe anything you mind tells you, especially if its negative, and self-defeating.  You are way better than that.  Eckart Tolle says, “The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly.  Used wrongly, however, and it becomes very destructive.”

   5.   Give up your limiting beliefs.  About what you can or can’t do.  About what is possible or impossible.  From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place.  Spread your wings, and you fly.  “A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind.” – Elly Roselle

   6.    Give up your complaining.  Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many things in your life – people, situations, events that make you very unhappy, sad, and depressed.  Nobody can make you unhappy.  No situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to.  It’s not the situations that trigger those feelings in you but how you choose to look at it.  Never, ever underestimate the power of positive thinking. 

    7.  Give up the luxury of criticism.  Give up your need to criticize things, people, or events that are different from you.  Were all different and we are all the same.  We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and be understood and understand.  We all want something, and something is wished by all.

    8.  Give up your need to impress others.  Stop trying so hard to be something that you are not just to make other people like you.  It doesn't work that way.  The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you are not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

    9.  Give up your resistance to change.  Change is good.  Change helps you move from A to B.  Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives around you.  Follow your bliss.  Embrace change.  Don’t resist it.  One of my favorite authors is Joseph Campbell and he writes, “Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”

   10.    Give up on labels.  Stop labeling those things, people, or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, just a little, little by little.  Miracles only work when the mind is open.  Wayne Dyer says, “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.”

   11.    Give up on your fears.  Fear is just an illusion, it doesn't exist!  You created it, I created it, it’s all in our minds.  Correct the inside, and everything else is going to fall into place. 

    12.    Give up your excuses.  Take your excuses and send them packing and tell them they are fired.  You don’t need them anymore.  Lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use.  Instead of growing and working on improving our lives we get stuck.  We lie to ourselves.  We use all kinds of excuses.  Excuses which are 99.9% of the time are not even real.

    13.   Give up the past.  Here’s a big one.  I know, I know, it’s hard.  Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening.  But you have to take in to consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have.  The past you are longing for – it’s gone.  The past that you were dreaming about was ignored by you when you were in the present.  So, let’s stop deluding ourselves.  Be present in everything you do and enjoy your life.  All of life is a journey, it’s not a destination.  Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the Now.

     14.   Give up attachment.  This concept is a hard one to grasp, and I have to tell you it was for me too.  It still is.  But it’s not impossible.  You get better and better at it with time and practice.  The moment you detach from all things (this doesn't mean you give up your love for them, because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another.  Attachment comes from a place of fear while love, real love, is pure, its kind, and selfless.  Its peaceful, where there is love, there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist.)  You become very peaceful, so kind, so tolerant, so serene.  You will get to a place where eventually you will be able to understand all things without even trying.  It’s a state beyond words.

      15.   Give up living your life to other people’s expectations.  Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live.  They live their lives according to what other people think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their enemies, teachers, their government and the media thinks is best for them.  They ignore their inner voice, their inner calling.  They are so busy pleasing everybody else with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their own lives.  They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need, and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – you've got this one, right now – you must live it, you must own it, and especially, don’t allow other people’s opinions to distract you from your path.

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Charlie Pacello is a PTSD, Depression, and Healing Trauma Recovery Expert and Life Coach, a former US Air Force Lieutenant, and creator of the program, 'Lt. Pacello's Life Training Program.'  He can be reached by visiting his website at www.charliepacello.com

The Science of Why We Are Happy - the Work of Dan Gilbert

I want to talk to you now about the science of why we are happy.  This part of my program comes from the work of Dan Gilbert.  I have a video which I show each of my clients and most of what I’m about to write comes directly from this video.  What Dan says is so important, that I want you to get it here.  What he says can change your perception on happiness, and for those of you who are reading this blog, I really want you to have it in front of you so you can go back to it.  There's something about seeing what's been said in written words that allows us to really grasp an idea, and this idea is radical.  I want to thank Dan Gilbert for his inestimable work in this area.  He really shined a light for me when I needed it.  

Dan Gilbert is a Harvard psychologist and author of the New York Times best seller ‘Stumbling on Happiness.’  He believes that in our ardent pursuit of happiness, most of us have got the wrong road map.  He argues that our beliefs about what will make us happy are often wrong.  That our brains systematically misjudge what will make us happy, and his premise is supported by clinical research drawn from psychology and neuroscience.  He challenges the idea that we’ll be miserable if we don’t get what we want.  He proposes that our ‘psychological immune system’ lets us feel truly happy even when things don’t turned out as planned. 

So, why are we happy?  Well, about 300,000 years ago the human brain developed what is called the prefrontal cortex.  This makes us different from every other species on the planet in that it allows us to simulate and imagine.  This part of our brain is a simulator.  We can experience imagined experiences in the brain before they actually happen in life.  We can ‘test’ it out in our brains before we act it out in reality.  This is very similar to what a test pilot does in a flight simulator.  A pilot will practice flying in a simulator before he actually flies a plane.  He gets to experiment and work out all the mechanics of flying a plane in a simulator before he actually gets in a plane and takes off.  This same concept occurs in our brain when we imagine events in our lives which we would like to experience.  We imagine experiences in our mind before they actually happen. 

What the researchers have discovered is there is what’s called an ‘impact bias.’  What this means is that the simulator in our brain works badly.  Let me explain what I mean by this.  We would expect someone who has won the lottery to be happier than someone who becomes paraplegic.  When Dan Gilbert and his researchers examined this and tested out the happiness scale of people who won the lottery versus someone who’s become a paraplegic, what the data shows is that one year later, their happiness measures about the same.  They are equally happy with their lives.  So, this impact bias is a tendency to overrate the hedonic impact of future events.  ‘Hedonic’ meaning pleasure, feeling good, or happy.  Why is this true?  Because different outcomes are more different than they actually are.  

For example, whether a person wins or loses an election, or whether you have a relationship or not, or whether you get a promotion or you don’t get the promotion, all of these examples have a far less impact, less intensity, and much less duration than people expect them to have.  We would expect someone who won an election to be happier than someone who lost.  Well, a year later following the election, it turns out that their level of happiness is probably about the same.

Why is this true?  Because happiness can be synthesized.  What do I mean by synthesized?  What do I mean by synthetic happiness? 

Sir Thomas Browne, in 1642, in his work titled ‘Religio Medici’ wrote:

·       “I am the happiest man alive.  I have that in me that can convert poverty into riches, adversity to prosperity, and I am more invulnerable than Achilles, fortune hath not one place to hit me.”

What is he talking about?  Sir Thomas knew that we have this machine in our brain that converts negative experiences and events in our lives to something positive.  We human beings have what might be called a ‘psychological immune system’.  This is a system of cognitive processes, largely these are non-conscious cognitive processes that help us change the view of the world so that we can feel better about the world we find ourselves in. 

We synthesize happiness but ironically we think happiness is something not to be found.  Are there examples of people who have been able to find happiness after experiencing challenging and upsetting events in their lives?  Who were able to synthesize their happiness and turn lemons into lemonade? 

I’m going to share with you a few examples of people who have actually done this.  Jim Wright was a Democratic congressman in the 1990’s, he was chairman of the House of Representatives, and he resigned in disgrace after an up-and-coming Republican named Newt Gingrich found out he’d done this shady book deal.  As a consequence, Jim Wright lost everything – power, prestige, money – and he was the most powerful Democrat at that time.  What did Jim Wright, this disgraced congressman have to say about this years later.  He said:

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             “I am so much better off, physically, financially, mentally, and in almost every way.”

Here’s another example of a man who was able to synthesize his happiness after experiencing what many of us would consider a horrible tragedy.  A guy named Morese Bickham, spent 37 years in prison for a crime he didn't do.  After DNA evidence confirmed he was innocent, he was released from prison, at the age of 78.  Now, what did he have to say about his experience being wrongfully imprisoned for 37 years?  He said:

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                 “I don’t have one minute’s regret.  It was a glorious experience.”

He said it was glorious?!  How could he find being wrongfully imprisoned for a crime he didn't do a glorious experience?  To our minds, this is impossible to fathom, nevertheless, this was his experience.

Here’s another example:  Pete Best was the original drummer of the Beatles before they dropped him and picked up Ringo Starr and later became ‘The Beatles’.  He was interviewed in 1994; he was still a drummer, still a musician, still playing music.  What did he have to say?  He could have been a part of one of the most important bands of the 20^th Century!  He said:

·       “I’m happier than I would have been with The Beatles.”

Well, of course, we’re going to say ‘Yeah right.  Sure, ok.’  We smile at this and chuckle, and basically we deduce it in our minds that the person didn't really want that job, or you’re just trying to make a bad situation better, or you didn't really have that much in common with your ex-fiance and you figured that out just about the time she threw the ring back in your face!  But why do we smirk at other people’s ability to synthesize their happiness?  We smirk because we think that synthetic happiness is not of the same quality as what we would consider natural happiness. 

What is natural happiness?  Natural happiness is what we get when we get what we wanted.  Synthetic happiness is what we make when we don’t get what we wanted.  In our society we think that synthetic happiness is of an inferior quality to natural happiness.  Where does this belief come from?  Well, what kind of an economic engine that keeps churning over and over again, creating more and more consumers, how could that engine keep going if we believed that not getting what we wanted could make us just as happy as getting what we wanted!  Dan Gilbert suggests to us that synthetic happiness is every bit as real, enduring, and of the quality and kind of happiness that you get when you get what you are aiming for. 

This kind of happiness is about accepting the things that you cannot change, and having the wisdom to recognize that.  Here’s a bit of irony for you:  the freedom that we all cherish, the freedom to make up your mind and the ability to change your mind, which allows us to choose all these delicious, enticing futures that we have before us, it’s the friend of natural happiness, but it is the enemy to synthetic happiness.  Synthetic happiness works when we recognize there are certain things we simply cannot change!  Plato says, “What is once done, can never be undone.”  When we can finally accept that, we can engage the psychological immune system to convert that negative experience, that traumatic event, into something more palatable which enables us to gain a healthier perspective of our own lives, and find happiness where we are right now. 

This ‘psychological immune system’ works best when we are totally stuck, when we are totally trapped.  When we have no other choice but to keep moving forward.  We have to find a way to be happy within the given circumstances of our lives, otherwise we get imprisoned in the ‘what ifs’ or ‘I should have done this’ or ‘I’m a failure’, which only prevents us from activating the non-conscious cognitive processes innate to us which will bring us out of the past and into our present happiness.  This attribute that we have which is clinical verified is something that most people don’t know about themselves and this can work to our disadvantage. 

There was a study done by Dan Gilbert and his researchers at Harvard where they offered a photography course to the students in which they would take lots of pictures of Harvard, their ‘memories of Harvard’, and at the end of the course, the students would get the opportunity to select and keep one of their two best pictures they had photographed.  The purpose behind this study was to understand the psychology underlying the unanticipated joy of being totally stuck.  The students were asked to participate in this photography course and at the end of the course they were going to get to choose two of their best pictures, and one of them, they were going to get to keep, the other they would have to relinquish.  For half the class Dan and his group told the students they could change their mind, they had the freedom to change their mind, and they had up to 4 days to do that.  The other half of the class was told that once they chose the picture that was it.  The other picture was being sent away right after class, mailed off to England somewhere.  The students had no option to change their mind. 

So the decision was for half the class reversible, 4 days to make a swap, and the other half was irreversible, they could never swap.  The students were asked whether they could predict their satisfaction 3 days later or they could go away and report what their satisfaction was in 3 days and then again in 6 days.  What the results were was that those who could not change their minds really liked the picture that they chose.  This group’s satisfaction actually increased.  However, those students who had the option of deliberating, who had the freedom to choose, didn't like their picture.  ‘Is this the right one? Did I chose the right one?  I think I like the other one.  The other one was better.  Why did I pick this one?’  They had this constant turmoil going on in their minds as to which picture was better.  It made them not like the picture they chose, and even after the opportunity to swap the pictures expired; they still didn't like their picture!  Why?  This occurred because the reversible condition is not conducive to the synthesis of happiness! 

Dan and his researchers conducted another similar study on another group of Harvard students a little bit later and in this study they asked the students which photography course they would take: a course where the choice of their two best pictures at the end would be reversible or irreversible?  66% chose the reversible course, where they would have the option to deliberate on which of their two pictures they wanted to keep, not realizing of course, based on the previous study, they will ultimately be deeply dissatisfied with their picture!  Because they did not know the conditions under which synthetic happiness grows!

Shakespeare said this:  ‘Tis nothing good or bad, But thinking makes it so!’  Now wait a minute, is this really true?  Is nothing really good or bad?  Well Dan Gilbert makes a very salient point about this idea towards the end of this video which I share with you now.  He says that “yes, there are some things better than others, and we should have the preferences that lead us to one future or another, no question.  But when these preferences drive us too hard, or too fast, because we have overrated the differences between these two futures, we are at risk.  When our ambitions are bounded, it leads us to work joyfully.  And when our ambitions are unbounded, it leads us to lie, cheat, to steal, to hurt others, to sacrifice things of real value.  When our fears are bounded, we are prudent, cautious, thoughtful, considerate, and kind.  And yet, when our fears are un-bounded and overblown, we can be reckless and we can be cowardly.” 

Dan leaves us with a lesson to be gained at the end of this video, which I really want you to have.  He says, “Our longings and our worries are both to some degree overblown because we have within us the capacity to manufacture the very commodity we are constantly chasing when we choose experience.”  

What is important to take away from this blog?  Life sometimes gives us experiences that are a challenge to overcome.  When we refuse to take in these events and process them, and instead suppress them, it does major psychological, emotional, and spiritual damage to our beings.  With Post-Traumatic Soul Distress, Depression, and Trauma we are dealt a heavy hand.  Our souls are in trouble.  There’s a big gaping hole inside of us which paralyzes us and keeps us from finding a way to navigate out of the pain, and retrieve the joy of our own existence we once had.  But now we know from the work of Dan Gilbert we have a power within us that is able to convert those traumas in our lives and enable us to find the good, and thus, make peace with the past, which ultimately allows us to synthesize our happiness, so we can then build towards a better future.  We are able to do this through a ‘psychological immune system’ that is already built into us.  If we allow it to freely function without our interference, if we understand it and recognize its value in our lives, we can fundamentally change how we view the negative events that happened to us. 

It is a choice.  We have the free will to stay stuck, keep re-living the traumas over and over again in our minds, or we can take the time to transform them, and allow this built-in mechanism in our minds to convert that trauma, that pain, that suffering, into good.  We must recognize and own the power that we have within us to convert all of what has happened to us into fertilizer where we plant new seeds and grow into the people we are capable of becoming.  These traumas and pains can serve as fertilizer to being the best version of ourselves.  We must take the time necessary to cultivate this new self who is emerging by tending to our wounds and healing them.  We have the mechanism already built in to us if we will give ourselves the permission to tap into it.  It will synthesize those events for you and the feeling of happiness will replace all feelings of suffering.  Remember, nothing outside of you can give you what you already have.  You have it within you to be who it is you want to be.  When we are being who we want to be, the outside world will start to mirror that feeling and belief to us more and more.  Soon you will grow beyond the limitations that have been imposed upon you.  The traumas will continue to diminish in their power over you until they no longer hold sway over you and your right to be happy and free.  It’s time to empower yourselves.  Take in this information I am providing you, digest it, use it, and utilize it in your daily life.  You have the power within you to make the transformations in your life you so deeply long to have.  Begin the transformation today.

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Charlie Pacello is a PTSD, Depression, and Healing Trauma Recovery Expert and Life Coach, a former US Air Force Lieutenant, and creator of the program, 'Lt. Pacello's Life Training Program.'  He can be reached by visiting his website at www.charliepacello.com

The Technology of Emotion

In this blog, I want to discuss the technology of emotion.  In my program, there’s a video I share with my clients that was produced by Greg Braden.  For those of you who do not know who Greg Braden is, let me share with you a brief biography taken from his website.  He is a New York Times bestselling author and is internationally known as a pioneer in bridging science, spirituality, and the real world.  For more than 27 years Greg has explored high mountain villages, remote monasteries, and forgotten texts to merge their timeless secrets.  His discoveries are now shared in 33 countries and 38 languages through paradigm-shifting books such as: The God Code, The Divine Matrix, Fractal Time, and Deep Truth.  His 2007 best seller, The Divine Matrix is now a textbook for college level courses exploring new discoveries of science and our relationship to the world.  He is an active member of several leadership organizations, including the Evolutionary Leadership think tank founded by Deepak Chopra in 2008, and has received numerous awards in recognition of his insights and innovations.  Greg’s work has been shared on every continent in the world and in recent years, he has presented his seminars and trainings to Fortune 500 companies, the U.S. military, international businesses, and has been featured in media specials on the History channel, the Discovery channel, National Geographic, ABC, and NBC.

 

So, in this video Greg Braden shows us a film where cancer is actually being cured in less than 3 minutes using the language of emotion.  By using the language of emotion, which each and every one of us has inside of us, and mirroring that expectation to the field that surrounds us, we can make measurable and immediate changes to our world.  The key to accessing the power behind the language of emotion is you must feel the feeling as if it has already happened.

This was a presentation called “Language of the Divine Matrix” which was recorded in Italy on May 30^th, 2007.  In the video, Greg tells us, and before I go on I want to be clear that almost all of the information I am writing about today comes from the video, I’m going to give it to you all right here, so you have it.  It’s that important.  Greg begins by saying when we have a feeling in our hearts, we are creating these electrical and magnetic waves inside our bodies that extend beyond our bodies into the world around us.  The research shows these waves extend not just one or two meters but many kilometers beyond where our heart physically resides.  So right now, you are having an effect on the outside world, you are having an effect on the people around you, in your home, in your neighborhood, and ever further beyond where you are sitting right now.  Now when many people get together with just this one feeling of love, appreciation or peace, the collective energy emanating from their hearts can change the world.  We would consider this today to be a miracle.  And it remains a miracle until we understand the science behind it.  Once we understand the science behind it, it no longer is a miracle; it becomes a technology, a powerful technology that we can access anytime we want it.

The film that’s on the video was filmed in a medicine-less hospital in Beijing, China.  There’s no medicine in this hospital.  And the film shows a woman who’s been diagnosed with cancer in her bladder.  She has a 3-inch diameter cancer.  Western doctors told her there was nothing she could do about it.  They couldn't help her.  So, instead, she went to this clinic in Beijing, China where they think a little bit differently than we do.  At this particular clinic, they applied the technology we’re talking about, the technology of emotion, which for them comes from the ancient wisdom they have inherited in their culture.  What you see on the film is this:  there are three practitioners, three people trained to feel just the right feeling, the precise feeling in their hearts.  They create the feeling as if the woman is already healed.  We are witness to what is going on inside of her body through a sonogram, through an ultrasound, and as we’re looking into her body, we get to watch, in real time, her cancer disappear in three minutes.  And this occurs in the presence of the language that heals. 

What you see in the video is this woman is awake, she is conscious, she’s not under any anesthetic, and the critical factor to get is she believes in the process.  She believes in what is happening.  And the 3 practitioners are trained to create this feeling in their bodies as if the woman is already healed.  On the video you see a computer screen, which has two images.  The one image is before the healing, it’s on the left side of the computer screen, and then the other image is next to it on the right, and it is occurring in actual time, in real time, so we can see the healing happen.  Now when the healing is happening, you are hearing these practitioners chanting a word.  But this word is just an ordinary word, it could be any word, there’s no magic in this word.  The word is the word that they chose which re-enforces it for them; it connects them to that feeling.  This is something the practitioners have agreed upon that is the word that would create the feeling in them.  But, I really want you to understand that it could be any word. 

As the film begins, we see the two images side by side.  Then we hear this chant: ‘Wa-sa, wa-sa, wa-sa.’  As they say this chant, they gradually increase the speed of this chant as we watch on the video the cancer disappearing.  She’s awake through it all, she’s conscious, the practitioners are behind her, and on the video you can easily see where the tumor is on the bladder.  You see the black emptiness of where her bladder is and then where the tumor is at, a white circular blob on the bottom right of the bladder.  They take a snap shot of the tumor for a reference, and this is the image posted on the left hand side of the computer screen.  The image to the right of it, as I've described before, is in actual time, and as they chant the tumor disappears.  And all of this happens in 2 minutes, 40 seconds. 

When the procedure is done, you see the image on the left hand side, the snap shot of what the bladder looked like before with the tumor, and then you see the image on the right hand side of the bladder without the tumor, which is the one in actual time.  In our Western way of thinking, in modern science, this would be considered a miracle because they don’t understand the field that connects everything together.  And they don’t understand the language which speaks to this field.  Once we begin to understand the language and learn how to access this field, it is no longer going to be considered a miracle, but it will become a technology. 

I want to go back to the meaning of the word in the chant.  The practitioners chant this word – ‘Wa-sa, wa-sa, wa-sa’ – over and over again.  The word that they are using, loosely translated means ‘already happened.’  It’s already done, dispersed, gone.  Her healing is already done.  They believe it whole-heartedly, convincingly.  It’s already done.  In their minds and in their hearts they are coming from a place that the healing has already happened.  Not that it’s going to happen, not that it’s about to happen or that it is a long, slow happening, but that it has already happened.  Why is this important?  This is important because the field of energy which I am about to discuss with you is a mirror.  It’s a mirror that reflects our feeling of what we are going to experience in the moment. 

So, if our belief is that our healing is about to happen, or that our perfect relationship will come to us someday in the future, or that our abundance in the bank will happen for us someday in the future, guess what this field will keep reflecting?  It will keep reflecting someday, someday, and someday.  Why?  Because it’s open-ended, there’s no outcome, and there’s no conclusion.  This energy field I’m talking about is very subtle, it’s very powerful, and we must learn how this field works.  This field is called ‘The Divine Matrix.’  It is a field that mirrors now.  It’s not in the past, it’s not in the future; it’s right now, this moment.  This is what I really want you to get.  If you don’t get anything else from what I’m writing about today, this is the most important part.  What we choose to experience in our lives we must feel in our hearts as if it has already happened.

The cancer healing that we are witness to on the video happens all the time in this part of the world.  It not just a one-time thing, they do it all the time here.  But the Western scientists see this and it makes no sense because they can’t understand it.  This is because Western science says that our beliefs, our feelings, and our emotions have no effect on the world outside of our bodies.  However, as we are learning more and more every day, this is just simply not true.

When I talk about ‘The Divine Matrix’, I’m talking about Max Plank’s Matrix.  Max Plank, for those of you who don’t know, is the father of quantum theory.  He was a German theoretical physicist who originated quantum theory.  This theory revolutionized human understanding of atomic and subatomic processes, just as Albert Einstein’s theory of Relativity revolutionized the understanding of space and time.  Basically what Max Plank’s matrix is: it’s the Mind as matrix.  Here are his words:

• “All matter originates and exists only by virtue of a force which brings the particle of an atom to vibration and holds this most minute solar system of the atom together.  We must assume behind this force the existence of a conscious and intelligent mind.  The mind is the matrix of all matter.”

There have been experiments done that show human DNA has a direct effect on the physical world, and that human emotion changes the DNA that is changing our physical world.  The reason this is happening is because of this field, this matrix that connects everything together.  It’s Max Plank’s Matrix that is the conduit that allows these results that we see in those experiments. 

The idea that all matter is connected through a net of energy is a very old idea, and was popular in the late 1800’s.  In science, there was a belief there was an invisible web of energy that connects everything, and the scientists of that time were in a very heated debate as to whether or not this field actually exists.  There was a famous experiment done to determine the existence of this field.  At the time the web of creation was named the “ether” or the “ether/aether” field.  The “ether” has been talked about and is found in many ancient books and texts from our collective past, however, the scientist wanted to prove scientifically the existence of this field.  So, in 1887, the famous Michelson-Morley experiment attempted to prove once and for all the existence of the ether.  It was a good experiment but they interpreted it badly.  Basically, they were unable to find the existence of the ether and therefore concluded it did not exist.  The field, they concluded, wasn't there. 

As a consequence, for over a hundred years our science has been based on the belief that it’s not there, however, this belief was later proven incorrect.  In 1986, the United States Air Force repeated this experiment, the Michelson-Morley experiment, and they published the results in the prestigious scientific journal ‘Nature.’  What they found was that when they repeated the experiment with the more sensitive equipment and technology that we have today, they ended up discovering the field actually exists, just as it was predicted in 1887 by Michelson and Morley.  It was there!  This report is by E.W. Silvertooth, titled ‘Special Relativity,’ Nature, vol. 322 (August 1986): p. 590.  Of course, I wanted to verify this, so I looked it up, and there it was.  The date of the publication is actually August 14, 1986.  It’s a short little article, and at the time the Air Force was having some difficulties with their GPS satellite systems, and they were talking about conducting the Michelson/Morley experiment in space to see “about the effects of standing waves in rotating and translational motion of optical apparatus.”  This quote is from the article.  Without going into all the details of the article, at the very end it says, “If present findings are sustained, it may not be necessary to extend the Michelson-Morley tests into outer space in order to obtain positive, as opposed to null, results in interferometric tests of linear motion.”  There was no reason for them to continue with the tests in outer space because they had already found it.  The field was there. 

So, not only did they find the field, but it measured precisely as Michelson and Morley had predicted 100 years earlier – they just didn't have the sensitive equipment to work all this out.  Why don’t we know about this?  You would think this would have been major news.  Well, the reason we don’t know about it is because it changes everything for the scientists.  All the textbooks say the field is not there, entire careers are built on the field not being there, but the field is there. 

What does all this mean for us?  We have to create that feeling in our hearts that what we want to be is already.  We have to believe that our healing has already happened.  Not that it’s going to happen, or it’s about to happen in any moment or that it’s close to happening, it has happened.  And this goes for every aspect of your life.  Whether it’s healing and recovering from PTSD, depression, or trauma, whether it’s having that relationship that you want, or having that job you want, it comes down to believing it has already happened.  This field is a mirror and will reflect back to us our beliefs.  And when you believe with your whole heart, in every cell of your being that it has already happened, and you connect to this Divine Matrix, (it’s there, believe it), the universe will bend to your will.

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Charlie Pacello is a PTSD, Depression, and Healing Trauma Recovery Expert and Life Coach, a former US Air Force Lieutenant, and creator of the program, 'Lt. Pacello's Life Training Program.'  He can be reached by visiting his website at www.charliepacello.com